People Are Only in Your Life for a Season.

If you are someone like me, you can’t stand the idea of someone being mad at you or upset with you. You can't ever think about someone not being proud of you. You can't imagine people you are close with not being in your life anymore. Maybe, when I say this you begin to think of someone behind the back of your mind. Maybe you had a fall out with this person and something made you begin to question whether or not you want to still be friends, or keep them in your life. Maybe you begin to notice that the two of you aren’t as close as you used to be. As directions and times shift in your life, you will begin to notice that some of your really close friends, or the ones that you once had in your life are no longer in the picture, they are no longer invested in your life and making time for you. There are 3 things that come about with this perspective. People are only in your life for a reason, a season, and a lifetime.

To put into perspective of why i'm writing this blog I am going to give a little background story. (I will use the names Taylor and Emma.) From the moment that Emma met Taylor she knew that she was going to get close with her. They did everything together, they talked about everything, and Taylor was the only person that Emma felt like she could talk too. One day, Taylor tells Emma that she is moving. It destroyed Emma. She breaks down and cries thinking about it, because from past experiences she knows that they won't have the same relationship that they had built once she left. Taylor promised Emma that their relationship won't change, and that it was only going to get better. She promised Emma that it would be like she never left. Well, it did and things changed a lot. Week by week went by and Emma didn't hear from Taylor. They didn't text all the time like they usually did. Taylor stopped responding to texts. Emma had realized that she knew that this was going to happen, and so she cried for hours thinking about how she basically just lost her best friend. Statements started flooding through her mind; "Did I do or say something wrong", "Was it something that I did?","Does she still love me anymore", "Does she miss me?" and "Why?". Every time that Emma looked at a picture or a video of her and Taylor she would cry because she missed the way things were before she left. Taylor made an empty promise. Taylor promised Emma something that she couldn't keep.

If you probably couldn't have guessed it already I am Emma in this story. I had someone who meant so much to me, leave and make these promises that they couldn't keep. When you begin to think about it, It's honestly the little things that you miss about the relationship/friendship. I miss the texts, and the checking in on you texts. I miss the "I'm coming to get you, do you want anything from Starbucks?, I miss the "I love you" texts. I miss them making me laugh until I couldn't breathe. I miss just talking to them. I talked to this person about everything, and although sometimes it was hard, it was all things that I needed to hear. I miss talking to them about God. I miss spilling my life to the only person that I felt like I could trust, and the only person who I felt like understood me.

So with this story I say that God places people into you life for only a reason, season and a lifetime.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, They have come to help you through a rough patch in your life. They are there to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. This person is only there for the reason that you need them to be there, and then "Without any wrongdoing on your part... the relationship will end." Maybe God placed them into your life because you needed to learn an important lesson from them. For example: "In your life, you may have met someone who has acted as a teacher or guide, that you once looked up to. This person may have passed down their wisdom, giving you lots of valuable advice to take with you on your journey towards happiness. Many of us remember a certain teacher at school who taught us a lot more than school subjects. These people are often excellent at solving problems that younger people do not have an understanding of yet. Even decades after they are no longer in your life, you may still think about them with a smile on your face."

If someone is in your life for a Season, it can mean that you met them because they were meant to help shape your personality and individuality into what it is today. It becomes your turn to share, grow or learn.

This person may make you laugh, teach you something you have never done, and just seem to be there to help you through this season of your life. Then they disappear out of your life and leave you with something to hold on to for the rest of your time here on Earth. I think that sometimes God takes people out of your life because they have began to have negative influences on your life.

Some people will hold you back and not allow you to be open to growing and maturing. Or, Maybe You have outgrown them. Some people become "inactive" in their own lives. While you’re continuing to grow with your career, family, etc. and climbing the ladder, some people don’t want to work to do better for themselves. Some people may have helped you regain a lot of things that you have lost and helped your relationship with God grow and maybe they feel like its time for them to let go of you, and let your wings grow by themselves without having to rely on them anymore.

Lastly, When people are in your life for a lifetime, it means that you know that they aren't going to leave you. They are going to be there to support you, encourage you, and love on you in time of joy and sorrow. These are the people that are going to be there for your biggest accomplishments. They are going to celebrate your graduations, your marriage, your pregnancies, your career aspirations, your dreams and your goals. These people won't just leave after they taught you a lesson you can hold on too. This person may be your mom, dad, uncle, aunt, sister, brother... etc. This person when you meet them, you will know that they will be in your life forever.

So with this I say, Don’t stress when you lose people that you thought would always be there. Don't let them tear your heart down. Don't let them make you cry and make you feel sad. One of the best things that I think you can do is just pray for them. Pray that things are going well for them, and that they are having a happy life. I also think that you can try to keep reaching out by texting them, and calling them but I also think that once you feel like the relationship/friendship is becoming one sided it might be time to let go. God does things for a reason, and God places people into our lives for a reason. Though we may not understand why God takes people out of our lives He does it for a reason. Maybe it's to better us, maybe it was time for them to go, and maybe it was time for you to set your wings out and fly because you don't need them in your life. Remember God's love is worth more than any other love. He loves you so so much and He will NEVER leave you.

Love, Kayleah Allen